The words “fighting” and “fair” do not compute together for me because I grew up in the streets where we fight to win, and winning a street fight sometimes requires unfairly breaking some rules.When I think of fighting, the first thing that comes to mind is to win at all costs or to win the […]
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Recently, my patience has been tested in ways it has never been before. So much so that it caused me to research the quote “patience is a virtue” and its origins. For some reason, I thought it was in the Bible, but a quick search revealed that it is not in the scriptures. Many commonly
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Sometimes life transitions offer you the opportunity to explore what your ideal life would look like. When things are in disarray, you can reflect on the hopes and dreams you once had but perhaps forgot about. Take this time to write about them in a journal or talk about them with a trusted friend or
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Do you remember a time in your life when you experienced the thrill of something new: a new relationship, a new job, a new home, a new atmosphere. There are so many exhilarations that can come from embracing change, so why do life transitions often seem so challenging at first? Perhaps because they force us
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The President and First Lady were being escorted to a local event. As they’re driving through the city, they happened to pass by a familiar face. It was the First Lady’s former boyfriend, who was working as a garbage collector. “IF YOU WOULD HAVE MARRIED HIM,” the President said, “YOU WOULD BE THE WIFE OF
Unveiling faces is a true art of self-awareness, and vulnerability. Within our humanity, masks are worn and celebrated often. We celebrate the masks worn by entertainers, politicians, athletes, etc., who are all rarely genuine. Our current culture allows those who wear masks to wear them as if they are authentic, even though we know they
On March 23, 2020, Jeff and I armed ourselves with double latex medical gloves, shielded our faces with KN95 masks, and guarded our bodies with thick sweats and hooded sweatshirts. We headed to the battlefield (formerly known as the grocery store) to feed our family and find toilet paper. As dramatic as this sounds, it
It is common to wonder what love actually is. As we go through various stages in life, I believe our definition of love evolves. Every person gives, receives, and interprets love differently, and after reviewing Gary Chapman’s concepts of The Five Love Languages, I realized that my love language has always alternated between quality time,
I love taking the time to reflect on past experiences. And while I am careful not to rest in the dangerous forest of dark memories for too long, it is always an exciting journey through time when I am reminded of what God brought me out of and into. Just a little over four years
Overestimating the consequences and results of our worst fears is one of the most common reactions to uncertain situations. For whatever reason, our minds often interpret uncertainty as danger; a failed test equals a college drop out, a typo turns into being fired, a miscommunication leads to divorce, a misinterpreted text results in a terminated
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