Over the years, I have found myself struggling with what extent was healthy for me to gratify others around me. I frequently wrestled with the question of what a people-pleaser actually was and if I was one of them? The term “people-pleaser” usually has a negative connotation and is often used to describe a person’s […]
What some call “people pleasing” is often a trauma response. I have been working with traumatized youth and adults for 20 years, and I have noticed that the concept of saying “yes” or the inability to say “no” is often cultivated from the time we were children as a perception. Quick psych 101: Everything starts
Recognize that not everyone will like you, and not everyone should. There are several people in the world who have different opinions than you, and that is okay. Even if you are the sweetest, most trustworthy person on the planet, there are still people who are genuinely uncomfortable around good, ethical people because they cannot
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For a very long time, I found myself engaging in people-pleasing behaviors because I did not value my own desires and needs. Having a lack of self-confidence in various areas, I found myself craving external validation and often felt that doing things for others would lead to approval and acceptance. It took years for me
We are just starting to recover from the production of our Thanksgiving feast, which included two months of décor planning, two days of menu planning, one week of food shopping, three days of cooking and baking, three hours of set up, two hours of breakdown and clean up, and only about 45 minutes of eating
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