Recognize that not everyone will like you, and not everyone should. There are several people in the world who have different opinions than you, and that is okay. Even if you are the sweetest, most trustworthy person on the planet, there are still people who are genuinely uncomfortable around good, ethical people because they cannot relate. Even if your are the best looking person around, who loves and encourages everyone else, there are still hateful, miserable people out there who still allow jealousy to rule in their hearts. Try to start small when getting out of the people-pleasing habit. Say ‘No” to something simple that is not that serious and that will not necessarily affect others on a grand scale if you politely decline. Share your opinion with someone about something easy and light-hearted. Express your thoughts on something that you believe in. Each tiny step towards healing your ongoing people appeaser habits help you grow even more confident in naturally being who you are when you find yourself around other people.
Reminder: The 20-40-60 Rule
At age 20, we think everyone is watching us, thinking about us, and caring about what we do.
At age 40, we start to wonder if anyone is watching us, thinking about us, or if anyone cares what we do
At age 60, we don’t care if anyone is watching or thinking about us!
Let’s Think like we’re 60!