belonging

Identity is a powerful force that shapes every aspect of who we are and how we interact with the world around us. It is the deep-rooted understanding of ourselves, formed through memories, experiences, relationships, and values, and influences how we behave, think, and perceive others. Often, we look to external sources—like what people say, what we own, or what we do—to define our worth. However, true identity transcends these surface-level markers. It is built from a foundation of self-awareness and is nurtured through the relationships we form, particularly in our formative years.

In understanding who we are, we can begin to recognize the deep influence of our upbringing, especially parenting. The voices of those around us—whether positive or negative—play a significant role in shaping our perceptions and, consequently, our identity. But it’s crucial to remember that identity is not solely defined by external factors; it is also rooted in a spiritual understanding. As John 15:16 beautifully states, we are chosen by the Creator and appointed to live with purpose and impact, long before we begin making moves in the world. When we embrace this truth, we find a deep sense of belonging, love, and worth that is independent of our actions, possessions, or the opinions of others. This revolutionary perspective shifts our identity from a mere reflection of external influences to a powerful realization of who we are at our core.